[ wash has learned to nod and smile at anyone who tells him he's not that person anymore, or that he's changed, or that none of it was his fault -- it's a simple kindness, to let anyone who's concerned about him have that peace of mind. but he does it for them, not for himself, because he knows. he knows how much he misses it. he knows no matter how far removed he is from it, how easy it would be to drop back into it at a moment's notice, and how much he wants to. but people who've never lived like that have a hard time understanding it, and it's just easier to let them believe they've said the right thing. wash would never say that to anyone else, though.
prickly. wash is a little amused, and he doesn't entirely mind -- he likes some pushback, working with differing personalities is just part of the whole thing -- but this is a bit different, just because d'artagnan is specifically asking to learn about what it'd be like from the position of someone who's in control. this is something to take seriously. and so; ]
And I'll thank you to not think of anyone expressing discomfort or lack thereof as weak. I have a responsibility; performing my role involves making sure everyone involved understands what happens, what's at stake, where they can draw lines and what their options are. I will not hold off on asking you those questions to avoid offending your delicate ego.
[ i.e, not asking knowing that d'artagnan might be prickly about it would have been coddling. he works with different people, and has a fondness for working with the stubborn and ornery, but this is about respecting the bottoms he works with, not to mention that element of self-control. these are standards to hold himself to, and he will not compromise them. ]
Drop by when you're able. Tonight's fine, but my schedule's flexible.
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prickly. wash is a little amused, and he doesn't entirely mind -- he likes some pushback, working with differing personalities is just part of the whole thing -- but this is a bit different, just because d'artagnan is specifically asking to learn about what it'd be like from the position of someone who's in control. this is something to take seriously. and so; ]
And I'll thank you to not think of anyone expressing discomfort or lack thereof as weak. I have a responsibility; performing my role involves making sure everyone involved understands what happens, what's at stake, where they can draw lines and what their options are. I will not hold off on asking you those questions to avoid offending your delicate ego.
[ i.e, not asking knowing that d'artagnan might be prickly about it would have been coddling. he works with different people, and has a fondness for working with the stubborn and ornery, but this is about respecting the bottoms he works with, not to mention that element of self-control. these are standards to hold himself to, and he will not compromise them. ]
Drop by when you're able. Tonight's fine, but my schedule's flexible.